Pricing ranges from
    $5,271 – 6,852/month

    The Stonehaven Assisted Living and Memory Care

    10802 E 81st St, Tulsa, OK, 74133
    4.6 · 71 reviews
    • Assisted living
    • Memory care
    AnonymousLoved one of resident
    5.0

    Warm, clean, welcoming community recommended

    I moved my mom here and overall I'm very pleased - the staff are warm, caring and professional, the facility is beautiful and spotlessly clean, and the meals and dining options are good. There are abundant activities and amenities, quick move-in, attentive nurses, and communication that gave us real peace of mind. Staff made her feel at home, knew her name, and she's happier and more engaged. A few kinks: rooms can be small, there's some staff turnover and occasional responsiveness issues, and limitations around end-of-life care were a concern. Still, management was receptive and I highly recommend this well-run, welcoming community.

    Pricing

    $5,271+/moSemi-privateAssisted Living
    $6,325+/mo1 BedroomAssisted Living
    $6,852+/moStudioAssisted Living

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    Amenities

    Healthcare services

    • Activities of daily living assistance
    • Assistance with bathing
    • Assistance with dressing
    • Assistance with transfers
    • Coordination with health care providers
    • Hospice waiver
    • Medication management
    • Mental wellness program

    Healthcare staffing

    • 12-16 hour nursing
    • 24-hour call system
    • 24-hour supervision

    Meals and dining

    • Diabetes diet
    • Meal preparation and service
    • Restaurant-style dining
    • Special dietary restrictions

    Room

    • Air-conditioning
    • Cable
    • Fully furnished
    • Housekeeping and linen services
    • Kitchenettes
    • Private bathrooms
    • Telephone
    • Wifi

    Memory care community services

    • Dementia waiver
    • Mild cognitive impairment
    • Specialized memory care programming

    Transportation

    • Community operated transportation
    • Transportation arrangement
    • Transportation arrangement (medical)
    • Transportation arrangement (non-medical)
    • Transportation to doctors appointments

    Common areas

    • Beauty salon
    • Computer center
    • Dining room
    • Fitness room
    • Gaming room
    • Garden
    • Outdoor space
    • Small library
    • Wellness center

    Community services

    • Concierge services
    • Fitness programs
    • Move-in coordination

    Activities

    • Community-sponsored activities
    • Planned day trips
    • Resident-run activities
    • Scheduled daily activities

    4.61 · 71 reviews

    Overall rating

    1. 5
    2. 4
    3. 3
    4. 2
    5. 1
    • Care

      4.4
    • Staff

      4.6
    • Meals

      4.4
    • Amenities

      4.3
    • Value

      1.7

    Pros

    • Caring, compassionate and family-like staff
    • Respectful treatment of residents and families
    • Responsive front-line team (mentions of Jessica and Brittany)
    • Engaging memory care activities and dementia programming
    • Dignified daily living care and emphasis on preventing isolation
    • Strong coordination with PT/OT/speech therapy and physicians
    • Modern, clean and well-maintained facility
    • Convenient location (off HW 169)
    • Improved resident health, mood and social engagement
    • Seamless move-in/logistical support and help with hospital transfers
    • Good hospice coordination and compassionate end-of-life care (in many cases)
    • Large dining area and plentiful meal options
    • Wide range of amenities (theater, game room, fitness room, cafe, beauty/barber shop)
    • Structured weekly schedule and abundant activities/enrichment
    • Excellent housekeeping and laundry services
    • Family-friendly communication channels (LifeLoop, Facebook group, texts)
    • Attentive management, nursing, maintenance and kitchen staff (frequently praised)
    • Welcoming lobby/ambiance (fireplaces, balconies, large windows, seasonal decor)
    • Dietary accommodations (gluten/dairy-free options)
    • Quick issue resolution in many cases

    Cons

    • High staff turnover reported by multiple reviewers
    • Inconsistent communication and missed callbacks
    • Missing clothes and bedding reported
    • Occasional lack of basic personal care (teeth brushing, dressing) reported
    • At least one report of a decubitus ulcer not being reported
    • Some night staff or med aides described as rushed or lacking compassion
    • Aides reportedly scarce at times; inconsistent assistance with toileting
    • Emergency cords or response systems described as ineffective by some
    • Policies or practice perceived as resistant to advanced care (no lifts, no PT in one report)
    • End-of-life equipment restrictions noted by a reviewer
    • Some reviewers felt the community prioritizes appearance over care
    • Variable food quality (many praise food, a few call it poor or variable)
    • Activities redundancy and need for better onboarding for new residents
    • Small room sizes for the price (mentioned several times)
    • Community size or layout may be too large/unsuitable for more advanced dementia
    • Operational errors cited (e.g., being charged after a resident passed)
    • COVID infection while resident was there reported
    • Requests for improvements such as name tags and landscaping

    Summary review

    Overall sentiment: The reviews for The Stonehaven Assisted Living and Memory Care are strongly positive in aggregate, with a large majority of commenters praising the staff, environment and programming. Recurrent themes are genuine, compassionate caregivers who treat residents and families with respect and dignity; a clean, modern facility with attractive common areas; and a robust schedule of activities and amenities that help residents thrive socially and emotionally. Many reviewers emphasize peace of mind provided by attentive nursing, strong interdisciplinary coordination (therapy and physicians), quick logistical support for moves and hospital transfers, and family-friendly communication tools such as LifeLoop, text updates and a Facebook group.

    Care quality and staffing: Most reviewers describe high-quality, individualized care — staff who go above and beyond, attentive nurses, on-time medications, twice-daily checks for some residents, and aides who know residents by name. Several accounts highlight exemplary memory-care programming that prevents isolation and improves mood and functioning. That said, there is a clear pattern of inconsistent experiences: multiple reviews raise concerns about high staff turnover, spotty communication (including missed callbacks), and variable performance by night staff or certain med aides. A handful of serious negative reports describe missing personal items (clothing and bedding), lapses in basic personal care (such as teeth brushing and dressing), and one review alleging a pressure ulcer that was not reported. These negative accounts are less frequent than the positive ones but are significant because they point to reliability and continuity issues that families should monitor.

    End-of-life and hospice: Reviews reflect mixed but often deeply compassionate end-of-life experiences. Several families praised the community for coordinating hospice care, providing compassionate support through a resident’s final days, and even attending funerals. Conversely, at least one reviewer said the facility relied on hospice for basic care needs and reported staff conflict with hospice providers; another noted that certain end-of-life equipment was not allowed. These divergent accounts suggest that while hospice coordination can be a strength, specific policies and staff comfort with end-of-life care may vary and are worth clarifying during touring or intake.

    Facilities, amenities and dining: The Stonehaven facility itself is repeatedly described as modern, clean and well-maintained, with a welcoming ambiance — highlights include fireplaces, large windows, balconies, outdoor patios, a light and airy lobby, seasonal decorations and attractive common spaces. Amenities are extensive: theater, game room, fitness room, beauty/barber shop, cafe/bistro and large dining hall. Many reviews sing the praises of the kitchen and dining staff, noting restaurant-style service, chef interaction, and dietary accommodations (gluten- and dairy-free options). A minority of reviewers found the food quality variable or not great. Rooms and some common spaces elicited mixed reactions: while many find them beautiful, a repeated comment is that some private rooms are small for the price.

    Activities and social life: Activity programming is a consistently positive point — reviewers describe abundant, varied and engaging activities (cooking classes, happy hours, celebrations) that help residents make friends and laugh. A few reviewers recommend diversifying or avoiding repetition in activities and adding a more formal onboarding plan so new residents acclimate faster. Families also suggested practical improvements like clearer name-tagging for staff and residents to help social integration.

    Management, communication and operations: Management and leadership receive many compliments for responsiveness, hands-on involvement and quick resolution of issues. Multiple families felt welcomed and supported during moves and appreciated clear, honest communication. Contrastingly, some reviews report poor communication, managers perceived as unavailable or focused on meetings, and a decline in responsiveness tied to staffing turnover or ownership change (one reviewer mentioned an ownership transition to Legends). Administrative concerns also include at least one report of being charged after a resident’s death and a COVID infection acquired in the facility—issues that underscore the importance of confirming billing policies and infection-control practices.

    Safety and clinical concerns: While many reviewers felt safe and well-supported, several serious operational concerns appear in the negative feedback: emergency call systems described as ineffective by some, inconsistent toileting assistance, and reports of limited availability of lifts or physical therapy in at least one case. These items raise caution about the consistency of direct-care staffing and equipment availability during peak or complex care needs.

    Suggestions and improvement areas: Reviewers offered concrete suggestions that Stonehaven could adopt to strengthen the experience: implement a structured onboarding plan for new residents; ensure consistent name tags for staff and residents; address landscaping and curb appeal details; standardize communication practices to avoid missed callbacks; improve continuity to reduce turnover impact; audit inventory and laundry processes to prevent missing items; review night staffing and med aide training for compassionate care; and clarify policies around end-of-life equipment and advanced-care support.

    Bottom line: Most families describe The Stonehaven as a warm, well-appointed community with exceptional staff in many departments, strong activities and therapy coordination, and a positive impact on residents’ quality of life. However, a nontrivial minority of reviews describe operational lapses, inconsistent caregiving (particularly tied to turnover and night shift), and administrative glitches that can meaningfully affect resident experience. Prospective residents and families should emphasize checking current staffing stability, communication protocols, policies for end-of-life and hospice equipment, room sizing and pricing, and reviewing procedures for inventory/valuables during their tour and move-in process. Doing so will help confirm whether the generally strong positive patterns described in most reviews align with an individual resident’s specific care needs and expectations.

    Location

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    About The Stonehaven Assisted Living and Memory Care

    The Stonehaven Assisted Living and Memory Care sits in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and has built a good reputation for helpful staff, friendly service, and a community that makes people feel welcome, so families often say the workers act with kindness and joy and always help out when needed. The building looks clean and well-kept, and folks talk about the nice smell and the way staff members say hello, which helps visitors feel comfortable when they come through the doors, and many find that the award plaques for Best Activities, Best Meals, and Most Friendly are well-earned. Meals use quality ingredients and are served up in the Gold Leaf Dining room or the busy bistro, so residents get choices like vegetarian or low-sodium options and can eat with friends or family when they visit, and if someone prefers to eat alone, room service is available.

    Stonehaven offers assisted living, memory care, independent living, home care, respite care, and personal care, and takes in older folks who need some help with bathing, dressing, and daily medicines, as well as people living with Alzheimer's disease or other forms of dementia. Nurses and caregivers write up personal care plans after meeting the resident and keep the support steady day or night, so people get help when they need it and can still do things on their own when possible, and those who deal with memory loss get added safety and support, including programs made to reduce confusion and keep residents from wandering off. The staff leads activities for the mind and body, things like music groups, painting classes, Wii Sports Bowling, Dakim BrainFitness, walking clubs, devotional services, and visits from therapy dogs, so there's usually something to do both indoors and outdoors, and the calendar's always pinned up so no one forgets the next event.

    The place was built with older adults in mind, with features like wide hallways, bathrooms designed for safety, and easy-to-find rooms, and there are studio, one-bedroom, and two-bedroom apartments, all on two floors, that let people keep their independence but get support when needed. There's a full-service salon, a living room area for sitting and chatting, a private dining room for special meals, a movie theater, and a kitchen for residents, plus a game room and communal spaces full of sunlight, and outside you'll find patios and a front porch with a fireplace where people can visit, get fresh air, or sit and relax.

    Stonehaven accepts pets-so cats and dogs are welcome in private spaces-and the whole building has Wi-Fi and public transport options nearby, so getting around isn't a problem. The community gets reviewed for licensing twice a year and is a verified partner of A Place for Mom, so families can count on care that meets state requirements. There are transportation services for appointments and outings, along with weekly housekeeping, so daily chores don't get in the way of living a full life, and families often note the prompt response from staff when questions come up. Folks can take a tour, share a meal, and get a sense for daily life, with plenty of chances to see dining, wellness programs, and group activities in action.

    Stonehaven's main focus lands on helping people keep their independence, find new friendships, and stay active, with supports in place when health needs change, so it works well for older adults in Tulsa and nearby towns who want a safe, lively community where care goes hand in hand with comfort and respect.

    About Legend Senior Living

    The Stonehaven Assisted Living and Memory Care is managed by Legend Senior Living.

    Legend Senior Living was founded in 2001 by industry pioneer Tim Buchanan, who pioneered the assisted living concept across the nation nearly 30 years ago. Headquartered in Wichita, Kansas, the company remains a privately held family business currently led by two generations of the Buchanan family, including President Matt Buchanan. Legend Senior Living currently owns and operates over 70 residences across seven states: Colorado, Florida, Kansas, Missouri, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, and Texas. The company has experienced significant growth in recent years, adding 11 communities in 2023, eight in 2024, and eight completed by mid-2025.

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